It also reminds me of this (pretty depressing) article:
http://www.pbs.org/kued/nosafeplace/...nightmare.htmlA woman's worst nightmare? That's pretty easy. Novelist Margaret Atwood writes that when she asked a male friend why men feel threatened by women, he answered, "They are afraid women will laugh at them." When she asked a group of women why they feel threatened by men, they said, "We're afraid of being killed."
I can't comment on the literature aspect because I'm not at that level myself, either, but as far as your personal development as a human goes, it's very good that you're feeling bad about not being able to understand the deeper meaning. That means you want to elevate yourself to a mindset that allows you to. Like you said, already a lot of people don't read books. But what this means for you is not only do you read books, you're trying to read into them. You have a good future ahead of you with an achieving mindset like that.
Thanks to all who replied!
I think one of the main causes of my worry is that in literature classes, I usually have bad ideas or just "scratching the surface" (<- my teacher often uses this term when I think I got very close to thee solution).
There was one particular book which I enjoyed very much. It was about a little boy, who at first thought that adults are so much better than kids and they're almost perfect. He slowly had to realize that it wasn't true in the slightest, and in the progress, he started to grow up. I guess I sort of saw myself in the whole thing. However, when we reached this part in class, it turned out that the author intented it to be some kind of mirror to the political situation in his time.
I still refuse to believe that it wasn't about human nature but rather politics, but I have to learn that, because that's what the book/teacher/government says.
I say give it a shot, learning some functional self-defense and street smarts is never a bad idea
Even if you work toward a better world, you should still prepare for the reality of today.
My PE teacher is quite awesome in that matter to be honest. He (yes, even though he's a man, he teaches us girls) usually spends at least half of our classes with some self-defense training. It's pretty fun and he knows what he's doing. He even shows us multiple ways to avoid or get out of bad situations.
You can't rely on that in large societies."If people didn't need money, they wouldn't have any motivation to work!"
Lack of money would eliminate the need for a lot of jobs we have now in the first place (the ones who deal with money, of which there are many). Most of the jobs we would still need people for, people would still want to do. The police would still exist because there will always be those that care about and want to protect their community, for example.
This sort of thinking would only really work in very small communities.
With all the dangerous crap jobs that need doing in our world, i have a hard time beliving that you could get the neccesary people without some compensation
I'm afraid. I'm not the kind of guy who posts here a lot but... I'm entering senior year in HS and I've been looking at my transcript. I did awful freshmen year. There's an upward trend in my GPAs through Junior year but I'm mostly interested in applying for UCSD. Now that I've looked up some questions online and seen the admittance rates and requirements, I just don't know. I was always so sure I'd be accepted but... I fear the worst now once I send in applications... My SAT score is nothing special and it's really just the math sections that killed me.. (About a 1730. I did really well in Writing and Reading but Math blew it for me).
I know this is more of a Help thread because it's so focused on academics, but I just feel the need to post this. I'm not the kind to whine or anything so this isn't really a whiny post. At least, I don't want it to be. So far my AP test scores have been great (two Fours and one Five) and I hope to keep that up, but I don't even know how many schools really look into that. At this point, I'm just thinking that I should just try and apply anywhere I can, even universities I feel are less realistic options for me than others.
I have taken several Honors and AP classes in regards to grades. My freshmen year was awful though. I heard some don't count freshmen OR senior but I was really hoping they would at least count Senior year. I will work my ass off this year but I really regret fucking around in freshmen. I did a lot better Sophemore year but I still could have done much better. I'm satisfied with my Junior year GPAs but I have my transcript and unweighted my GPA is 3.302. Awful. I just don't get it.
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I'm in a good mood.
Also, I can speak from experience when I say not to slack off your senior year. Whether it's counted or not, keeping your nose to the grindstone will ensure you are most prepared for college. I got lazy during my senior year and college hit me like a ton of bricks. But you seem to understand what's important, so I think you'll be okay. You just have a case of jitters, which many students get going into college application time. Just keep at it.
Man, it's pretty depressing how you can't even post posters that say, "You don't discriminate against gays, do you? You don't discriminate against men... do you? Men's rights are human rights," without them being defaced horribly, stamped with pink letters that simply say "wrong", or torn down. A guy posted a lot of posters saying that in Canada, and as soon as he puts the posters up, they get torn down. The same thing would happen here in the USA too.
I just wish feminism and men's rights activists (funny how they don't have their own word) would see that gaining rights at the expense of another's is not okay... Why can't they just be part of the equality movement? Are people really still this blind and dumb? Christ. I understand how traumatizing circumstances can cause you to lean towards feminism or... man-ism, but these ideologies are just so damaging.
Obviously there are radicals that hate all men and want them gone, like there are radicals and extremists in any group, but it's not about hurting men.
I need an opinion on something.
I would look at it and try to figure out what is making you feel that way about them? It's pretty obvious to me why I feel that way about my mother >_>
Identify those reasons and speak to a counselor, maybe try one that deals with cognitive behavioral therapy. If you think its an UNREASONABLE emotion (hey, a lot of people feel like they want to go postal on their parents/siblings/coworkers/random strangers, even if they'd never act on it), or just all around undesirable and you can't live with it, then try this out. CBT is logic-based reasoning that helps you change how you think about problems and issues that arise and how you respond to them. I'm really emotional, and a lot of things (stupid and otherwise, but mostly stupid) get under my skin and get me down and depressed horribly, but with this I've been able to learn and deal with issues that arise, and its ultimately built upon itself over the years and I've become capable of ignoring and dealing with things I never imagined I would, including tolerating my mother better.... but there's only so much woman-child dramatics and ungodly odors and levels of trash one can take.... And I have seen counselors, psychiatrists (I used to have major anxiety problems... again most coming to light dealing with my mother, and they pretty much went away in time with my CBT skills), and my regular doctor... who have all told me the same thing time and time and time again: You need to get the hell out of your mothers house. There's only so many problems changing your thinking can solve XD
But give it a try, definitely ponder on your reasonings of WHY you think that way (there's usually SOME reason you have thoughts about hurting someone, even if you're normally overly emotional in the head), and seek a counselor to speak to. They can help tremendously. And I recommend it over a psychologist who is just going to talk to you for 5 minutes then start throwing medicine at you. You may feel that working through your thought processes and changing your thinking helps with the anxiety too.
And when I was a nervous, anxiety-ridden trainwreck/paranoid as fuck I didn't have an empathy or much concern for anyone else, I was lost in the "oh shit I am going to die" mindtrap world that was my life. It became easier and easier as time passed and I got myself in order... but I'm still not perfect, I still think I have to think too hard about it, and that makes ME feel like a bad person (that being empathetic and selfless should just come natural to you... that may not be entirely realistic but that was something burned into my head growing up that always made me feel inadequate and selfish... another thing I've had to overcome (though caring for others is wonderful and good! Just don't kill yourself/drive yourself crazy doing it, then its not for the right reasons) . Your paranoia and anxiety could very easily be keeping you in "me mode" and drawing your attention away from others. I think thats normal for that sort of thing, so don't feel at all that you're a bad person.
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