I'd like to do some karaoke at some point in my life.
Then you'll never do it!!!
Karaoke is easily one of the best group experiences you can do with friends. However, there is a sort of unique experience you can do with friends of friends in a group.
One time I went in a large group for a karaoke night and was randomly chosen to do a duet with some guy in our group I didn't know (like a cousin of an acquantance or something). He picked to do System Of A Down's Chop Suey and threw me the mic.
Was it a good song to do karaoke? Hell no.
Could either of us sing? Not to save our lives.
Was it incredibly fun? Yes. Very yes. I'd strongly recommend someone do karaoke at least once in their lives.
Oh it got interesting when we started going on about how angels deserve to die when one of the chaparones was a strict christian priest. He wasn't pleased to say the least.
But it was all totally worth it.
Guess I should be ashamed of myself then for feeling attracted to this kind of girl. (Low self-esteem, that is). Though I will at least defend myself and say that I don't walk all over people. My last girlfriend had virtually no self-esteem and still managed to walk all over me. If I ever did something wrong, I had to apologize. And if she ever did something wrong, I had to apologize. Ended up following her lead a lot too despite knowing that it was a stupid idea most of the time.Originally Posted by JERK DISEASE
I ended up with a bad combination, she had no self-esteem and made stupid decisions so if I tried reasoning with her logically and telling her that she was making stupid choices she would get pissed off because I'm either a) always right or b) she felt like it was my responsibility to respect her decisions because no one else did and I was going out with her. At the beginning of the relationship she was really passive too so I know she either was keeping her confidence from me or I'm just damn good at instilling confidence.
I did everything for that girl and was glad to. But... it still wasn't enough. And I'm very confident when I say that I wasn't a shitty boyfriend either. I always made a conscience effort to respect her and never become overbearing or pushy because I knew she had self-esteem issues and was easily influenced.
My Self Esteem = Non-Existent.
Seriously. I get so freaking nervous it's terrible. I almost panicked on my mock interview (which I did shit in, and it was on my birthday as well. nice present thanks...)
As for talking to him? I've spoken to him a few times, but I find it hard to make eye contact or talk with anyone who I'm not confident with talking to. I'm always worried that I'll say something stupid or wrong. My words always get muddled up, and whether that's down to having to relearn how to speak at three because of a tongue operation or down to nerves, I don't know but it's still a pain.
Thou shalt be ended in the name of the League of zachri and the Lawfare army.
It's like the only time in my life I've ever felt like that. I dunno if that's what passing out actually is, but my vision started going all yellow and fuzzy, no matter how hard I tried to stop it. My hearing went out and I couldn't keep my eyes open. I almost involuntarily went unconscious I think, but I had to walk out of the assembly door so all the teachers saw me as they sit at the back along the door walls. And it wasn't taken as much, I didn't get annoyed or teased for it but it was personally, one of the most embarrassing moments of my life.
I've never been good with Blood or those kind of things.
5 others actually fainted . BUT HE STILL CONTINUED.
And don't be afraid to make mistakes. I mean when I say something stupid (mix up words etc.) there's one second of awkward silence then we start to laugh. Most of the time it comes out something like this: "The window jumped out of the cat" "What?" "Why, what did I say?" "You said the window jumped out of the cat" "Wha? For real" and we laugh.
You can't say anything too bad, so just go ahead and talk.
About that. It's pretty strange in my case. I can't stand horror movies but I love horror games. Even books.
Well, maybe it'll die down. Don't worry about it. And if you pass out, then there's always somebody who can help, isn't there? I hope it's not too serious. Passing out isn't fun at all.
you'll never get a good job if you can't make eye contact. I hate talking to people who can't look me in the damn eye. I'm not trying to have a staring contest with you, but for christ sakes, look at me like I exist. There was this one girl I knew who always wanted to talk to me in high school (she was crushin' on me) but she could rarely ever look me in the eyes. Whenever she wouldn't I'd just stop talking until she finally looked at me, then started speaking again.
Now she works at McDonalds.
I'm not that shy or insecure but I hate eye contact, too. It's not like I look away for an entire conversation but I feel awkward if I keep looking someone in the eye more than 80% of the time.
I bet if she wouldn't have had that issue she'd be a successful lawyer now.
I'm bad at eye contact, but I think a part of it has to do with Conciousness.
I feel awkward looking people directly in the eyes, like in assemblies etc, cus I get the feeling they're looking at me and that makes me feel nervous. But there was this one time when I was extremely tired and I just didn't give a fuck. Presumably I wasn't as self-concious because I wasn't very conscious.
@ Flux + Nolus I s'pose - lol what the hell? that's crazy! last time it happened was last week, we were watching a video about a school that specialized in mortuaries and they were showing how they reconstructed the faces and showed the faces before and after and I wasn't watching and peeked every now and then and looked at the wrong moment and saw a cancer face... then after about a minute I was out. No idea how long I was out for, but my entire body shut down so it was kinda embarrassing :|
the entire class vacated thankfully, and my R.S teacher (bless him, he didn't even know I'd passed out cause he was at the opposite side of the class) had to take his form somewhere else. they had no idea who it was X'3 bless.
worst time was last year in English. we were talking about miracles (MoThEr FuCkInG MiRaClEs, MaN) but they were like... ergh. not about to remember it. but because I'm paranoid if someone talks about something like that, then it's almost as if I can feel that pain D'X ttly passed out on someone and they shoved me into the radiator... a-hole. oh well. it got to the point where all my teachers now know and I have a pass to go to the office and see someone if I feel like I'm going to pass out. kinda f**ked if I'm in English, Maths, Art, Graphics, and maybe R.S. Science and I.T are rather close to the office thank god. I've passed out on about... 4+ teachers. oops.
@ Eerie - can't really help it, just nerves. it's alright (but awkward also) if the person I'm talking to has a lazy eye.
The connexions woman kinda looks just past your head... whether that's intentional or not, it actually helps.
Thou shalt be ended in the name of the League of zachri and the Lawfare army.
About the eye contact thing and confidence in general, you could always just try being silly. There's a reason that the class clown is usually the most popular person, it's because silliness is an easy way of showing that you're approachable and can be talked to. Like, obviously don't go overboard with it or anything but don't be stuck-up or too reserved either. We're all human beings, we won't eat you.
Awkwardness is only really an issue if one of the people are pressing it. Like for instance, if someone thought I was looking them in the eye too much and told me, I'd ask if I should look at the wall instead and if they kept being stale towards me then that would be their fault. If you're willing and able to resolve the awkwardness but the other person is still making you feel like shit then you shouldn't blame yourself.
You should just kick their ass. >=9
Though honestly, I don't think she was a shitty person. She was just ignorant to the ways of the world. She reminded me a lot of myself when I was younger and seemed to be dealing with a lot of the same problems that I dealed with. That might have been another reason why I was so attracted to her because when I was younger, all I really wanted was somebody to hold on to. But she would never listen to my advice because she wanted to make her own mistakes. And ya know, I respected that because sometimes the only way to learn is to just find out the reality for yourself. Still, that was a very frustrating thing to deal with because I knew the solutions to her problems and she just wouldn't listen.
But yeah, I learned a lot. I've made a lot of promises to myself after it ended with the most important one I think being that I'm not going to take that kind of treatment again. I still believe in compromise but the relationship was too one-sided and that's not okay. By the way, I'm glad to see you participating in the conversation here (you and Holy). Sometimes I go off tangent and say incredibly stupid shit so it's nice to know that you're around because you usually put shit in place.
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